Help in Healing

    

I feel like my message today may be one of the lengthiest and most introspective messages I have written in a long while. Today is a day for restoration and renewal; while we have the opportunity every day I want to speak to spiritual power and purpose that comes by way of the cross.
I want to address the way and the work of the cross in our interpersonal relationships.

Describing connections as polluted and convoluted attachments is the best way to describe the ways many of us form our closest and most intimate bonds. Oftentimes, when we talk about toxic relationships and attachments, these relationships facilitate behaviors like jealousy, secrecy, deception, manipulation and selfishness. Toxic behaviors stem from a poor sense self and erode the integrity of connections as well as destroying the "true and real" relationships that bring our lives joy and honest and pure love. These behaviors are far more common than you might think.

Our bonding behaviors and patterns are formed in our childhood, they are consistently changed and refined throughout life. Our experiences in childhood leaves “residue” throughout our lives; there are other experiences throughout life that influence and reinforce our negative behaviors and we allow these things to keep us locked in these patterns of poor choices and self-destruction.

Whether we want to admit it to ourselves poor self – esteem is one of the main reasons people find themselves in toxic “situationships” that cause mental, emotional, spiritual and sometimes physical pain.

We might suffer from poor self-esteem because of past relationship experiences, or we might suffer from low self-esteem because of traumatic childhood experiences.

All in all, the poison in our lives is a result of our investment in what others have told us about ourselves (rooted in their experiences and expectations) and our wounded spirits embracing the information and feeding our “shoulds”….

END RESULT – we end up “shoulding” all over ourselves!!!
Allow God to speak and to heal you…
Stop vesting in the other people’s scripts for your life and live the “scriptures”

Jeremiah 30:17 New International Version (NIV)
17 But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’
declares the Lord,
‘because you are called an outcast, Zion for whom no one cares.’
18 “This is what the Lord says:
“‘I will restore the fortunes of Jacob’s tents and have compassion on his dwellings; the city will be rebuilt on her ruins, and the palace will stand in its proper place.

Isaiah 61:7 New International Version (NIV)
7 Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion,
and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance.
And so you will inherit a double portion in your land,
and everlasting joy will be yours.

Know that authenticity, being real with yourself about your faults and frailties are genuine beauty…the true you is enough
The true you is a God made gift to and for the world.